When well-meaning people can’t see it the same way

Yes, there are a few people who are mendacious, who are not seeking what you’re seeking. And yet, most of the time, there are plenty of good people who disagree with you–they want a good outcome, but the narrative they bring insists on getting there in a very different way. They have different glasses on and are using a different map as well.

People don’t believe what you believe, and they don’t know what you know. Some of the gaps:

Authority–because the world works better when things are coherent and predictable and someone is in charge
Freedom–because people free to speak up and find their own path are able to weave a civil society out of chaos

Affiliation–because being in sync and engaged with others makes for a happier life
Conformance–because doing what you’re told is safer and telling people what to do is easier

Inconsistent–Change is fine if it makes things better, even if you want to call me a flip flopper
Consistent–Because it’s safer to stand for something and not reconsider it

Hero—Someone needs to save the day
Bystander–There’s too much on the line, and I’m not the one to do it this time

What will they say?–keep an eye on those that are watching me
What will my mom say?–doing the right thing, even if someone is looking, and especially if no one is

Belief–because it’s a narrative to quiet the chatter in our head
Proof–because science works

Change–because things can get better if we let them
The status quo–because change is risky

Civility–because we’re working to keep it all from falling apart
Conflict–because if you can’t handle it, get out of the way

The long haul–because none of it is worth it if we poison ourselves
The short run–because the long haul manages to take care of itself

Service–because our heroes sacrificed for others
Profit–because making a profit is the market’s way of rewarding service

The strongest–because the pack moves fastest if the strongest are supported and rewarded
The slowest–because we’re only as good as the way we treat the weakest among us

The cusp–because progress is interesting
The middle–because proven is better

Family first–because you take care of your own
Community first–because everyone is in your family

Emergencies–because this pain needs to be addressed right now
The long game–because the emergencies never end

Show your work–because finding an error in my math helps us both, transparency pays
Opacity—I don’t need you cherry-picking an argument with me

Pay it forward–because someone did it for me
Put your own oxygen mask on first–because I might not get another chance

Seth Godin